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When I was growing up no one ever talked to me about expectations. I never read a book about it, never had my dad sit me down and talk to me about expectations, didn’t even hear a sermon on expectations. But as I walk into adulthood I have found time and time again that expectations is the biggest thing I struggle with.

Whether it be high or low expectations, I often find myself disappointed and often times angry that they are never met. It is not something that I realized was going on, but it has become glaringly obvious to me that at the core of most of my frustration are my expectations.

I often wonder if expectations are a motive of selfishness, idealism, or the lack of contentment? It is probably is all of the above. But expectations seem to be the first thing I set and the last thing I think about. But they never leave me satisfied. In fact, they only produce more anger.

This struck me as odd when I realized that hardly anyone talks about the issue of expectations. How we project them on others, situations, and our own life.

Here are just a couple of quotes I found about expectations:

“There were two ways to be happy: improve your reality, or lower your expectations”  –Jodi PicoultNineteen Minutes

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” –Donald MillerA Million Miles in a Thousand Years

“No expectations mean there is no risk of disappointment.” -unknown

I do not know about you, but expectations kill me every time. With the girls I have dated, with every job I have taken, every friendship I have started, and every dream I have dreamt.

And as I continue to think abou this subject I come back to a one-way conversation with myself. I feel like I need to get this conversation out to others.

This is something that I have never talked about before and would love to hear what you think about expectations and how you handle them.

Share your thoughts on expectations below


I have decided to dust off the ole Music Tuesday feature because there is someone I need you to hear. My friend Lana Del Rey is worth bringing back Music Tuesday (she is not really my friend, but I hear people say that all the time and it sounds cool). I think you will enjoy this little album as much as I have been enjoying it. Do not judge her by her awful Saturday Night Live performance, (here is a much better performance on Letterman) I do not know what happened with that. Judge her based off of the album below, you will not be disappointed.


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Buy the album here

The easiest part of working at a church is leaving God out.
Yes, that sounds crazy, but every day I go about my job without ever thinking about God.

Working at a church can in fact become more about work then the reason for your work.

It amazes me that the simple task of serving God is not so simple.
In fact, it is the hardest thing I have ever done.

I consult my own knowledge without asking God.
I rely on my own ability rather then on God.
I take credit for things that I did without ever giving acknowledgement to the blessing of God.

Sometimes the place that I leave God out of the most is the very place where His presence rest…in me.