Do you remember those days of childhood where you wanted to do everything yourself?
“No, let me do it” is a common phrase that is uttered out of most children around the age of 3 or 4. It is the age where life becomes more about experiencing then watching. You could say that the age of 3 or 4 is the ownership age.
No doubt as a young child learning and experiencing is apart of every day life. That stage continues as responsibility starts to grow. But at some point that ownership moves from experiencing to following through. There is no more cute smiles when you say “I got this” or “I can do this.” Just looks of waiting for you to either succeed or fail. The life of a 20 something is much like the stage of a 3 or 4 year old. A lot of “I can do this” and “I got this” type of response. But what if 20 somethings don’t got this?
What if we are not as great as we think?
As a 20 something I believe that we have some of the greatest potential and talent ever seen. We have grown up in the information age of the internet, social networking, and social good. Never has there been more chance to accomplish major things then today, and you can do them all from your living room. We are living in one of the greatest times ever!
All that stuff is great unless we fail to do anything. 20 somethings like to talk a big game but have been known to fail at backing it up. It is what the ballers call “bringing your game” (obviously I am not one of them because I used the term baller. please forgive me). But instead of looking at if our game is good enough (referencing fear, failure, insecurities) maybe we should look at if we think our game is too good. Because the attitude today is that most 20 somethings are unwilling to listen, undisciplined, and over promising and under delivering.
It is a catch 22 of sorts…
Having confidence but also humility.
Having courage but also grace.
Having ability but also vulnerability.
Having strengths but also control.
Having ideas but also patience.
Maybe the issue with 20 somethings and responsibility is not that we want to do everything on our own but more that we want to do something greater then ourselves and just need help getting there.