On the journey of people pleasing, this question has to be asked.
Are you a Doorman or a Doormat?
Why is it an important question for people pleasers? Because everyone is a people pleaser. We all want to make people happy, have friends, make connections, and most importantly win (that was a charlie sheen reference). The people pleaser inside of you has to consider which kind of person you are, a doorman or a doormat?
Often times I think people pleasers get confused on which one they exactly resemble. It is easy to see both one in the same. Mainly because they both stand by the door. What is the door? The door is opportunity, the door is abilities, the door is your life. This door is the very thing that people walk through every single day on their own journey. It can get confusing standing so close to something that feels so personal. But the distinction has to be made, are you a doorman or a doormat?
A doorman opens the door for people
A doormat lets people walk over them
A doorman knows the people that enter through the door
A doormat only knows people who step on them
A doorman is known for being resourceful, possessing information, and having authority
A doormat is known for wiping people’s feet, being stepped on, and left to sit alone
A doorman chooses who to let in and who to keep out
A doormat has no choice