What’s An Appropriate Attitude To Take On The Future

Kyle Reed // @kylereed

Surely I am not the only one that struggles thinking about the future?
All the unknown, the perceived darkness, the  pressure to succeed.
Surely I am not the only one who does not know how to think about the future?
What do I call it? Do I get to see the future in today? Who makes my future? What is my future?
Surely I am not the only one who wants to see the future from a 30,000 foot view rather then my 3 foot view. To see past the walls of reality and into the horizon of forever.

When it comes to the future it seems that I have more questions then answers.

I think about the future a lot. What it will look like, feel like, be like. But what continues to plague me, as I look at the future, is what my response to the future will be?

My prayer recently has been one of asking that I have the right attitude about the future.

How do you think about the future?

*kyle

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I create websites, conversations, and ideas. Advocate for the 20 somethings. Looking to connect everyone to a mentor. Married to my best friend, Ginny. I like my coffee black and my dog Jack. I currently live in Nashville and work at Sony Music/Provident in Nashville
  • Anonymous

    Great question Kyle, kinda of heavy for me. I guess I’m an eternal optimist. I do fly at 30K feet, and mach 2. I think from this vantage point, I see nothing be good things for me! Not good in the sense of everything is going to be “peachy.” But good know God will keep me, hold me and protect me and those dear to me. I stand on my ability to believe God for the best, in spite of what I see. 

    • http://chriscornwell.org Chris Cornwell

      Good thoughts Artie. It’s a comfort to know that no matter what direction the world takes as a whole, God is there for His people and will be until the end.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Interesting. 

      So let me ask you this, you look at the future, you seem to know where you fit and your strengths, with knowing all of that what posture do you take in thinking about the future and how do you move forward with that? 

      What does your prayer look like for the future?

  • http://thisismethinking.com/ Darrell Vesterfelt

    I think about the future with a does of reality.  I am only promised to know today — I can prepare and plan for tomorrow but I have no idea what it will look like.  I cant expect to know how things will land, and dont want the stress of trying to figure it out.  I want to work today to create ease tomorrow, but not to predict tomorrow.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      focus on today. You are correct. 
      I need to do better at that and be more intentional. 

  • http://chriscornwell.org Chris Cornwell

    Surely we can do better than this. That’s what I think about. And how can I help it along. I don’t want to sound like a “Sunday School Answer,” but’s that my heart. As Christians, we are struggling as whole. We are the minority and there are more people that have never even heard the words Jesus Christ than that will go to Heaven right now. I pray that tomorrow I move further and further away from living my life with a pinch of salt but actually being salt and light to this world. 

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      me too

  • http://www.jasonvana.com Jason Vana

    Challenging questions Kyle. I think for the most part, I look to the future with optimism and hope, choosing to believe that things will work out and the future will be great. But there are times I get worried that things won’t change, I’ll always be stuck in a dead end job and be the lonely 60 year old man with 5 dogs and a shot gun who scares people off his lawn.

    Or something like that. lol

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      That world you just described is Client Eastwood (which would kind of be cool if you were him)

      But I hear you. Almost like, how much of my doing affects the future and how much me stepping back and letting it happen affects my future.

      I struggle with the exact same thing

      • http://www.jasonvana.com Jason Vana

        I can honestly say that’s the first time someone linked anything I said to Clint Eastwood. Kudos for that!

        I think the tension exists for me especially in the last 3 years, cause there have been things I tried to do to change my future (like applying for jobs, looking into moving, going into missions full time) that didn’t pan out. So it’s like, do I just sit back and do what I’m doing right now and see what God does, or what.

        I guess we will see.

        • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

          exactly. Do you knock down the doors or do you wait for them to open. that is the toughest thing in the world. 
          And honestly I have no clue. because there has been times where I just want to punch the doors down and go through and yet know that I have to wait. 

          • http://www.jasonvana.com Jason Vana

            “because there has been times where I just want to punch the doors down and go through and yet know that I have to wait.”

            Oh man, do I know that feeling! I’m learning what it means to wait for His timing, but sometimes it is difficult to know when you are supposed to move forward, when you are supposed to wait, or even when you need to realize He’s trying to push you into a different direction. 

            Lately I’ve had the attitude (whether right or wrong, I don’t know) that I’m just going to move forward with what I”m doing – Ignite, freelance marketing work, etc – and hope that if it’s the wrong direction, He will do a course correct and get me going where I need to be going. 

  • http://twitter.com/itsjustleah Leah Carreon

    i love this! i think we all can caught up in what’s “next” that we forget to enjoy what’s “now”. Often times the uncertainty of tomorrow can totally stress and freak me out. As hard as it is for me to remember, i try and take things one step at a time, and enjoy the Journey has me on now, on the way to where I’m going. Thanks for bringing this up Kyle!

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Enjoying the journey, I am bad at that. But that definitely helps to stop and reflect

  • http://twitter.com/AnnaPBrittain APB

    I used to panic about the future a lot more than I do now. What I finally realized is that I couldn’t sit and wait on the future to happen, I had to go and be out in the world and meet people and experience things… I guess I’ve started to look at God’s will for my life the same way as I look at happiness — I’m only going to make myself miserable by pursuing it, rather than pursuing a full life and maybe accidentally stumbling upon those things along the way.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      I am the same way. Just go and do it

  • Anonymous

    With you, man.  Working on this myself.  I think I’m a bit too 30,000 feet, some days.  Got to take off the plane to get it that high in reality…. not just envision it there.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      beautiful and well said. You are right, to get that view you gotta go after it. 

      How do you get the plain to the runway then?

  • Jim – Day 40

    Very good responses.  I think we all have the common sense to know that dwelling on the future too much can be unhealthy.  And to avoid thinking about it can be just as unhealthy.  When it comes down to it, I think it is in our nature to always “wonder” about the future – all the way back to Adam and Eve.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      hmmm, so what is a healthy balance of the two (not thinking and thinking about the future)

  • http://stephenalynch.tumblr.com Stephen Lynch

    I see it just like I see my present:

    I’m right where I’m designed to be.
    I’ll be right where I need to be when that time comes.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      yaaaaaa, love that buddy

  • Anonymous

    I try to take each day as it comes, but I also like to plan. It’s a hard thing to balance. I like to keep this quote in mind, from Ben Arment. I’m sure you’ve heard it before. “From 30,000 feet, creativity looks like art. From ground level, it’s a to-do list.” – Ben Arment

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      love that

      • Anonymous

        Yeah, I’ve got that in my quotes note in Evernote and in my physical notebook as well. :)

  • Anonymous

    Please don’t take this the wrong way, but…you are YOUNG dude. I remember when I was all about the future. Everything I did seemed to be for the future, planning, saving, sacrificing, learning. I’m a big planner. But my perspective on that has all changed and now I’m very much about the  present. I try hard to live very intentionally, enjoy each day and rejoicing in the Lord for it. Sure I still plan a bit, but I live with an ever present feeling that I may not see another day, or something else crazy might shake everything up, so why worry? I don’t worry about the future much at all. I’ve seen God’s faithfulness through massive change and rough times and it’s the rock I build my life on. I just do the work God calls me to right now and let Him worry about how it all turns out. 

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Oh I took it the wrong way :) kidding

      Agreed with you. I do not want to miss the present, and sometimes I do that because I don’t think about it.

      I do wonder though, if you continue to live in the present are you neglecting the future? Are you not planning for the future? I mean I could start taking all that money I put away for retirement and buy some nice stuff to enjoy the present, but the future will be tough without the saving I did now. 

      I think we can argue semantics here, but honestly I want to be in the present with an eye on the future. So the things I do today drive the present but also drive the future. 

  • http://geekfori.com Graham

    Hey Kyle! It’s been awhile since I’ve commented on your site. I’ve been traveling and launching geekfori.com ;)

    I think this is a great question and I love that you think about this stuff! Of course I think about the future all the time. The pressure to succeed is even greater for me now that I’m engaged and have a “deadline” for getting a house purchased and all of that fun stuff.

    When you talk about wanting to see the future from a 30,000 foot view rather than a 3 foot view… I think I sometimes have a hard time doing the opposite! I am the type of person who is constantly seeing the bigger picture but I am not so good at the details all the time. Even though I feel like I am a detail oriented person… when it comes to dreams, it’s hard to get detailed and 30,000 feet is all I have. It would be nice to narrow in and get down to business.

    I think we all go through this in one way or another. We are in a constant state of “getting down to business”. By that I mean figuring things out… and looking for the next step. 

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Yes you have been busy. the new site is great.

      I agree with you, getting down to business is hard. I wonder if you can surround yourself with someone who can pay attention to the details while you paint the vision for the future

      • http://geekfori.com Graham

        Honestly that person is Allyson. She gets things done. :)

  • http://www.needinputblog.com/ Krista Stryker

    I used to be so afraid of not being able to plan out the future I stopped doing anything.  I just gave up on life, for about three years. I was miserable and hopeless. Luckily, I realized that was no way to live, and stopped trying to plan so much. What’s meant to happen will happen. The people who really care, who keep trying and don’t give up – we will all get somewhere someday. 

    So yes, the future is scary is hell – but so full of possibilities…

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Yaaaa, lead the way. I lov that call. 

      It is scary as hell, but I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else