Archives For 20 Somethings

Have you ever been in a job interview where they asked you if you had any questions for them? I am assured that everyone answered that question with a yes. This critical time where you get to interview them on if this is a right fit for you is available and all you can get out of your mouth is “I don’t think so.”

We both know you have tons of questions, you just don’t know the right ones to ask.

Going through an interview process can be as challenging as any job you will ever do. Getting what you are worth, being picked, and finding the right fit are just a couple of the challenges that you will face when you look for a job.


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1. What is the companies management style?

Are they hands off, task driven, micro-managing? What kind of style do they use to manage their employees is a key ingredient in the success of how well you do your job.
Other questions to ask in this category: Who reports to who and how often do you meet as a staff and specially with your supervisor?

2. How would you describe the responsibilities of this position?

Or are you able to review the job description before or during the interview.
Having a clear direction as to what you will be doing can help you see if this is something you want to be doing. Instead of waiting to figure it out once you get the job, ask for a clear picture before you ever start.

3. What do you see the next five years look like for this company?

And, what does the department’s supervisor envision the goals for the next five years.  Is it to maintain or is it to grow?  If growth, how?
This question is all about the long term view the company has. If they can’t give you an idea of what the next five years looks like this might not be the place for you. This question also shows that you are committed to long-term team work rather then short-term gain.

4. What does a typical work week look like for this position?  Hours expected during a day, days of the week, etc?

This question allows you to see your daily task, meeting schedule, and expectations. This will help you see if your style of working will fit in to the style of operation.

5. What’s the prospect of growth and advancement for myself in the company?

The all important “how much money can I make with this company.” But notice you didn’t ask it in a sleazy way, rather you posed the question in way of advancement and growth. For anyone looking to move forward and find success this question is crucial to know that you can go farther.

Would you add any questions to this list? 


Living in Nashville has taught me a thing or two about music. Mainly about crafting a great song. When writing a song, one of the most important components is the bridge. The part of the song where the writer moves the listener to a response or a conclusion of the song. If books use plot twist to thicken the plot, songs use the bridge to thicken the weight of their song. The bridge is the part of the song where everything comes together for one face melting moment As my friend Matt Warren likes to say “take me to the bridge.” He says this because he wants to know what the conclussion is, what is the emotion that is going to be evoked out of the song. If a songwriter can write a great bridge, they can write a great song.


For songwriters, the temptation is then to game the system. If all they have to do is write a great bridge then what is the point of writing a great verse or chorus? Why not just skip ahead to the bridge? Yes, the bridge does not exist without the other components of the song. These components, (verse, melody, chorus) don’t always have the same weight as the bridge, but they play an crucial part of the song structure and shape. Without these pieces, the bridge would have nothing to take the listener to, nothing to connect them with. Enough about song writing and structure. What interest me is the way it applies to life? There are times when I am tempted to say “take me to the bridge.” Get me to the parts of my life where I can get some answers, where I can connect the dots, where everything comes together. The bridge can be the safety nets of our lives. Where all of our dreams are coming true. The places where opportunities seem to happen.  But I am learning that the verses and choruses matter just as much as the bridge.  The temptation is to rush over things, to get to the other side…to the conclusion. But life can’t always be about writing the perfect ending to your story. It is filled with so many ups and downs, highs and lows, twist and turns that when the bridge arrives you are able to look back at all that it has taken to get you where you are and celebrate the bridge because you wrote a great verse and chorus. Bridge Typography Graphic

Inefficient is not ineffective.
I know what the definition says, and I know what you hear in your head when you hear inefficient. But that is not the kind of inefficiency I am talking about.

Meaning of inefficient

The negative connotation that goes along with inefficiency is one of laziness, insufficient, and a lack of caring. I have never heard Jesus described that way, nor have I read Jesus described that way.

But if we look at the life of Jesus, we see that He was anything from efficient.

There is a temptation today to make everything efficient. Your morning routine, your children, your job, your part-time job, your spouse, and maybe even your God. This temptation is in the name of effectiveness, a chance to speed up life and to get to the next thing in the most timely manor. If the fastest way to a point is straight, then you are headed straight.

Efficiency has crept its way in to our culture and has taken on words such as hustle, effective, and passion. And on the surface efficiency sounds great. It has become a way of life for many. This might provide them the opportunity to make more money for their family, write books, and take more meetings. Being efficient is doing everything to its absolute maximum and in the timeliest of manors.

The danger of efficiency is when it turns in to a way of life. When it becomes the only way to operate. When you start to make it your god. The temptation of efficiency is to always want more, to always take on more, and to systemize every action taken.

The thought of inefficiency might be the most inefficient thing you do today.

But looking at the life of Jesus, He does a lot of “inefficient” things.
Whether it was the time He decided to eat with a tax collector named Zacchaeus. Or the time He waited to go and check on His friend Lazarus. Or how about when He was suppose to be rushing off to save a dying child only to stop because He felt someone tugging on his jacket. Or maybe that time He called the Pharisee (the religious leaders of the day) a brood of vipers. Or how about when told the rich young ruler to sell everything and follow Him. Or maybe when He told a group of potential followers to let the dead bury the dead.

I am sure the disciples had several moments where they wondered about Jesus path to efficiency. Where they argued about how effective Jesus was really being. In fact, we see a bit of this exchange when Jesus is teaching  a large crowd. The disciples, realizing the potential problem ahead, tell Jesus to let the people go home because dinner is approaching. This obviously was in the name of efficiency. But Jesus had another plan.

Even in Jesus’ time, the demands for him to be efficient were overwhelming. He was suppose to be the one that overtook the Roman rule and lead the Israelite people to power, to authority, and to prominence. His path to efficiency was through shaking the right hands, kissing the right babies, and hanging out with the right people. It was all in front of Him. He needed to follow the plan and everything would fall in to place.

But reading the Gospels, Jesus took the path that no one else would have taken to power, He became death so that we may live. He took on sin so that we may be covered by His grace.

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If we learn anything from Jesus it was that He had a plan, it just wasn’t what we would have done. His plan was messy, it wasn’t efficient, and it was all about people. There was no system for Jesus, it wasn’t a step 1, 2, and 3 membership class, and it never made sense in the moment.

I think efficiency is so appealing because it can be predictable.
It is the only surefire way to have a guess at what the result will be. But what happens when efficiency leaves you empty? What happens when the system you created for your followers leaves them empty? What happens all the barriers are removed in the name of efficiency but there is still a huge gap between hearing and doing?

There is nothing wrong with efficiency. But when it becomes the only way to live it starts to rob moments that could have been. Imagine if Jesus never fed the 5000. Would life go on for those people if they had to go home and eat? Yes. Would they have been able to have practical application to the teaching of Jesus and His promise of providing? No.

I am afraid that our efficiency could be robbing ourselves and others the opportunities to have moments of growth. That the very way of living efficient could be stealing the every day miracle of life. Efficiency is the most inefficient thing you can do.

Should we live a life of chaos and wastefulness? No. Should we live a life that allows what some would call distractions (inefficiencies) to interrupt our schedule? Yes. Because those could be the very moment where God is speaking, showing, and doing something amazing in yours and others lives.

Maybe the most efficient thing we can do today is to look for chance to be inefficient in the way we love.

Thankfully my friend Jeff is calling us to live inefficient.

Recently I had the privilege of talking with Shaun King about his recent Kickstarter campaign to write a book about how to develop 100 life goals that you can accomplish. This project grabbed my attention first because it was from Shaun, and he has released some amazing stuff in the past 3 years, but second because he wrote a post on his blog about creating life goals. That post stuck with me for the past 2 years and I have been working on creating these goals ever since. I am excited about this project and to get my hands on it to further my goals and come up with even more audacious ideas.

Grab some coffee and let’s chat with Shaun King.

1. What is a life goal?

A life goal is a dream with an actionable plan behind it. Most of us fail to accomplish even a few of our life goals because we fail to take them from dream stage to plan stage. As long as the ideas we have are just abstract mind movies lacking steps or momentum, they will tend to remain stuck in that stage.

2. How has creating life goals changed what you do today?

Creating life goals has allowed me to accomplish more in the past 5 years than I accomplished in the first 30 combined. I used to really find myself spinning my wheels with so many of the thoughts, dreams, and ideas that were on mind. I found the same thing was true with so many of my friends and colleagues. It wasn’t until we started setting clear life goals with plans behind them that we really felt a true sense of momentum and accomplishment.

3. Why should we create life goals?

Very few life goals are ever achieved on accident!

Every single person reading this has hopes and dreams that have all taken longer to accomplish than they ever imagined. We often take more time getting directions on Google Maps than we actually do mapping out the trajectory of our lives. Live goals give you direction and squeeze value out of every moment in life.

4. Why does life seem to get more about our schedule rather then our goals?

GREAT QUESTION! When you don’t take real time out to plan your life, this just means somebody else is planning it for you – your job, your boss, whoever. When you don’t have a real framework in place to guide your life, the frameworks that other people create for you will set themselves up as your default framework and you’ll find yourself living the life that others want you to live. The halfway hilarious thing about this is that when you don’t have your own framework and plan in place to achieve your goals, it probably means you are spending most of your time helping other people achieve theirs.

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Life has many phases to it, I like to think of them as chapters.

I remember the chapter I closed when I moved out of my parents house and started my freshmen year of college. Or the most recent one of moving to an entirely different state. I closed one chapter and moved to the next exciting chapter of life only to be met with many new revelations and life lessons.
And as I have looked back at the different chapters of my life I can see that a new chapter is about to begin.

In July I am getting married.

A few thoughts as I am about to get married…

1. Doing life alone is much different then doing life together.

It is crazy how much life changes when you start to seriously put someone else ahead of you. Not only do you realize how selfish you were/are, but you realize how much more aware you are of others and their needs.

2. My priorities have changed. 

For 26 years of my life my priorities have been mainly about me. Many times I have made it a priority to serve others, but in the long run I have focused on myself. Introducing someone else into your life can change all of that. You now have a physical example in front of you who not only wants to be your priority but also wants you to be her priority. My priorities have moved from mine to ours.

3. I understand Christ love better.

Being a Christian, I have known the love of Christ since I was a very young child. Understanding the unconditional love of Christ has never been something that I have greatly struggled with, my parents have modeled this well. But understanding the sacrificial love of Christ has never been clearer in the many times that my love has called for me to be selfless. Comprehending the grace of love that I receive each day and the hope that it gives, has caused me to be a better man and future husband.

4. I truly do not understand how selfish I truly am.

Have I said this already? I know I can be selfish, but I never realized how truly selfish I can be. But I have found mysel in certain situation sinking to new lows when it comes to getting my way. This has been a grand revelation to me, having to lay down my selfish gains every day will be one of the greatest challenges I will ever face but will also be one of the greatest victories I will gain.

5. No one tells you how many emotions are involved. 

I am not a very emotional guy. The last time I cried was 10 years ago. But as I have gotten closer to starting this new chapter, I have noticed that my emotions are new and different. As a man, there is nothing wrong with showing emotions, but being a man that didn’t know he had these emotions is a whole other thing. The part that continues to surprise me is how many different things are seen differently when emotions are involved.

I cannot think of any other woman to start this new chapter with than you Ginny.



The platform that you are reading this blog on has something in common with all social networks…it was started by a 20 something.
Matt Mullenweg started wordpress almost 10 years to the day (May 27th, 2003) in his early 20’s which was not a unique thing for a 20 something in those days. In fact, facebook, twitter, tumblr and many more social networks were all started by 20 somethings who had a new way of envisioning the web.

With the recent news that yahoo has acquired tumbrl for 1.1 billion dollars it was another ringing endorsement for a social network that people doubted was profitable or sustainable. And for that matter, that a 20 something could start, maintain, grow and sustain a business was unheard of.

As a 20 something, who is looking to learn, grow and lead, the battle continues to wage on in how do I get the most out of my 20’s? The common response to this stage has been “wait your turn.”

But more and more, 20 somethings are doing amazing things and not waiting in line to get into the game. They are not waiting to get the right connections, gain the valuable internships or for that matter go to school.

It leads me to ask the question, why don’t more organizations, churches, businesses let 20 somethings participate?

The short answer that I have heard: experience.
But in reality this seems to be one of the biggest excuses I have heard.
Experience comes down to what you have experienced. Depending on how you grew up, you have been placed in several situations that have forced you to lead, take responsibility and even speak up, all before the age of 20. Experience doesn’t wait until you turn 20, it starts the day you were born.

But in reality this answer is probably not one you can fully capture here, but the response is inevitable.
20 somethings will continue to leave to create their own game. They will go where they can be creative, free and encouraged. They will be in places where they can create something that could be worth something. And they wont wait to get experience by watching, they will be experience by leading, experimenting and sharing. 

It is time to get in the game.

20 somethings: start creating now and don’t ask permission
Everyone else: remember that we are wanting to learn from you, but we also want to be heard by you. We are always watching what you are doing, but also looking to be heard, valued and remembered. Help us fail and learn, but also help us succeed.

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Tuesday I was working on a video piece for my job.
Now to clarify, I do not edit video, my job is to stick to websites and design, but I found myself completely a video mashup of a message (seen here and found myself with 8 minutes of footage and needing to cut it down to 2:30 minutes of footage.

As I was dialoguing with our video editor about cutting the project down he said something interesting.

“The job of the editor is to be unemotionally about the footage, but emotionally attached to the story,”

I had never thought of it that way before. I was trying to cram all the footage into one story, instead of letting editing the story into the paramaters that were in front of me.

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