An exercise for you:
-Grab a piece of paper (yes a real piece of paper)
-Write at the top “If my life was a story, what is the plot of my character?”
-Answer the question.
I hope that you can fill that sheet of paper with words.
If not, keep reading below.
For most of us (myself included) we know we are a character in a story, a story that is bigger then ourselves, a story that has an overarching theme. As a character in this story we interact with other characters each and every day. Some of these characters have defined purpose and plot, other characters are more like “extras” that sit at the bar sipping on a cocktail trying to blend in. But sometimes it is easy to get lost in the story, to lose sight of where you are going.
Simply put, you lose purpose and meaning.
I have to ask the question again:
Are You A Character In Search Of A Plot?
Still don’t know the answer?
Here is a way to distinguish if you are in search of a plot or not:
If you have no plot:
- You start projects only to stop them half way
- You find yourself spending money on items that you think will bring happiness only to find you want more
- When challenged you shrink back rather then step up
- You are always asking others for things rather then giving away anything
- You listen to Ke$ha (okay that is sort of a joke, but seriously don’t do this)
- You tend to react with anger rather then patience when dealt setbacks
- You constantly compare yourself to others
If you have a plot:
- You live from a place of response not reaction
- You have clear life goals and plans to accomplish them
- You speak less and listen more
- When faced with a “no” you keep moving forward
- You don’t just consume you produce
- You spend less time looking for answers and more time asking questions
The way you answer the question above will determine the direction your life takes. Often times the plot does not reveal itself until we spend some time searching for it out. If you find yourself feeling like a character in search of a plot spend some time writing out the last three months of your journey notices recurring themes and situations. Spend time going through the characteristics of those who have a plot and those who do not have a plot and see check which applies to you.
The plot will never reveal itself until we are willing to see it.