Archives For Happiness

I have a love/hate relationship with my mirror. It gives me feedback, confusses me on which hand I am truly holding my razor in, and really only serves the purpose of mocking my feeble attempt at style. Like most people, I visit the mirror every morning to make sure everything looks fine and in place. Its not an codependent relationship where I look for affirmation on my looks, more of a mom making sure her kids have on matching socks before going to school type of thing.

I trust my mirror. I trust what it presents to me, I trust its accuracy, and I trust its purpose. It does its job so that I can do mine (you know, look good). But sometimes I return to my mirror just to remember what I look like. See I sometimes forgot what my face looks like. Its shape, structure, blemishes, color, and texture escape me because they are not right in front of me. But as soon as I return to my mirror I remember what I look like. I get glimpses of myself throughout the day, but nothing as solid as the picture I see in my mirror every morning.

So you will understand that when I read James 1 yesterday looking in the mirror took on a whole other perspective. I don’t think you need a mirror to realize you have a confused look on your face right now trying to figure out how James 1 ties into all of this, well it does. Here is how…

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A week ago today it was 85 degrees, today it is 45 degrees and really really windy. Its what us wimpy people call cold.

I am not a big fan of cold weather, in fact I despise cold weather. The only reason I do not go as far as saying I hate cold weather is because of what it brings: cardigans, coffee, christmas, cold sheets and a warm blanket, the list could go on. But there is one thing that cold weather brings that is hardly ever discussed. The dreary world of depression.

The connection between the four seasons and emotional health has a scary relationship. Winter usually is to blame for the blah feeling that we have when finding motivation and cheer, but winter and cold are not the only times this feeling of depression is present. In fact, the season of depression is the spring. Yes, when the weather is changing, the flowers are blooming, depression only gets worse.

It would make a ton of sense that right now, (fall/winter) is the time of depression and spring/summer is the time of happiness. But in reality these next couple months are the time when depression makes sense and even starts to set in, but it doesn’t completely take over. The difference is, in the spring things are suppose to get better, life is suppose to turn around. The weather is changing and so should you. But when things do not turn around, depression becomes real and we start to question if we are ever going to get out of this “funk.”

Knowing that we are very prone (and I think everyone is) to letting the disappointments of life take over the outlook of the future I would encourage each and everyone to fight. Fight against the notion of letting depression and disappointment set in.

I know things are not always the best
I know that you deserve better
I know that you have worked hard and it seems that you cannot get a break
I know that all you want is a chance
I know it is easier to let fear take over rather then hope

But the most important thing I know is that He knows. God is there and will always be there with you. As easy as it is for me to say, God is with us in all seasons and moments.

I just know how easy it is to let fear, anxiety, and doubt to be at the forefront of everything you do. Lets encourage each other to not let these take over, but lets grab onto hope and lets fight.

The song below has brought me courage over these last couple of weeks. Check it out and listen to the message.

*kyle

This was a tough thing to talk about, but it is me and this is where I am at with life. Am I alone?

*kyle

This post is tough to write and yet very liberating at the same time. I have been blogging everyday (I miss some days) for 10 months now. I have been working on gaining a community as well as being apart of other communities. Inside of this process I have interacted with many of you on twitter as well as on your blog. It has been a great time, but to be honest, has overtaken my life and become my idol.

I never meant to let it run me, or for that matter hold my emotions and happiness. But it has taken over my life and has moved my emotional happiness up and down. Mainly, my love/hate relationship with this blog is stealing a piece of who I am everyday. Its not that I do not enjoy writing and being apart of a community. I have really enjoyed the process and all the interaction we have had over time. What I do know is that it is taking away from my time and energy.

I have decided to change things up a bit and slow down in my posting. I know this will hurt my numbers and stats, and therefore will hurt me personally. I like to be able to have a measurement for how effective things are. I would be lying if I told you that I did not check my blog stats or that I do not care about them. I do, and I often can let them dictate my emotion on how “effective” I feel like I was that day. But to be even more honest, I was getting so caught up in maintaining my blog stats that I was putting crap out there just to have content out there.

The new schedule that I am looking to set up is a every other day type posting style. This is subject to change and could go all over the place. My hope is that I will be able to cut back from all the BS that I was writing and focus in on great subject material as well as other projects and ideas that I am working on.

Thanks for being an awesome community and I hope that we can continue to walk through life together here on the blogs and in person. Looking forward to another season of life and blogging. Oh ya, and watch for a new name and blog title coming soon.

Have you ever thought about your blogging strategy and its effectiveness?

Early morning sunrises and coffee make me happy. I remember a couple of years ago driving back to school early on Monday mornings and soaking up the sunset. I was not upset that I had a two hour drive ahead of me, that it was early, or two or three classes later that day. All I was paying attention to was the way the sun was rising in the east. Maybe it was the way the light penetrated the darkness and brought warmth to the cool air that brought a smile to my face. I like to think that it had something to do with being in the presence of God. I loved seeing the sun rise in the morning.
The only problem was I hardly ever see the sun rise any more.

I think it would be safe to say that happiness is associated with light and depression is equated to darkness. We always see light associate with good things.  Which then makes darkness bad. I feel like the light or happiness is having a hard time penetrating the darkness or depression. Unfortunately it seems that depression and fear are easier to be consumed with then happiness and trust. Depression for me is fear of the unknown, the uncertainty that plays in my head about the future. This darkness over takes my vision and I find myself stumbling around with my hands in front of my trying to find my way. I get momentary glimpses of light to see where I am headed but just as I start to see darkness creeps in and takes over.
Why is it that depression is more prevalent then happiness?
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I just need to get away from it all and go to Buffalo Wild Wings and have dinner with a friend you haven’t seen in 3 months.
Not a care in the world about time, what is happening on the web, or what emails you might be missing.
Sometimes you just need to be with a good friend.

Sometimes you just need to _________________________

*kyle

We all have them…unique characteristics that makes you who you are.
The interesting thing about the blog community is that sometimes these unique characteristics can often go unnoticed.

So, what is one unique characteristic about yourself that we do not know?

*kyle