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Where Twitter Goes Wrong

I think we could all list out thousands of reasons why we love twitter.
I live where I live because of twitter.
I have the job I have because of twitter.
I have the friends I have because of twitter.
I date the girl I date because of twitter

You get the point.

But there is one side of twitter that we see everyday but don’t necessarily like to talk about. It is the side that allows us to see into others lives.

You might be wondering, isn’t that the point of twitter? Yes, it is, but to a certain limit. You see, 5 years ago I did not call up 80 of my closest friends and tell them that I got a new job. I didn’t call everyone in motorola razor address book and tell them who I was hanging out. My network was not at my fingertips. The only thing I could control was myself.

That changes things. It changes things because now a days you can be anyone you want through social media. You can give people access to your life, create a persona, or put the best you forward. Before, you couldn’t control what others saw. You had to have dignity, honor, respect and integrity. That wasn’t earned through a ReTweet and it wasn’t earned through having blog readers. It was simple earned by your actions.

Twitter is great, but when it turns into a broadcasting tool for yourself it turns bad.

The Value of Conflict…. in Private

I LOVE soccer…I mean LOVE it. The loss Sunday was tough for the USA Woman’s team. But it got me thinking about Hope Solo, anyone remember this comment she made in 2007?

“It was the wrong decision, and I think anybody that knows anything about the game knows that,” she said. “There’s no doubt in my mind I would have made those saves. And the fact of the matter is it’s not 2004 anymore. … It’s 2007, and I think you have to live in the present. And you can’t live by big names. You can’t live in the past. It doesn’t matter what somebody did in an Olympic gold medal game in the Olympics three years ago. Now is what matters, and that’s what I think.”

That’s Hope Solo RIPPING her coach about not putting her in, and saying she could of saved the goals…. well fast forward to 2011…. she didn’t. (Think of how less she would be embarrassed if she went to the coach in private?) Now she might be right, and the coach might be wrong. I know that I have said STUPID things in the past. In fact what I’m about to talk about, I have learned from experience myself and I tink this can really apply to 20 somethings as well.

1. What you say could be right, but HOW you say it and WHEN say can make it 100% WRONG.

-Yes what Hope said could be 100% right, but how she said it and WHEN she said it makes it 100% wrong. This is something I have learned, I use to be a HOT head…. I mean HOOOOOTTTT head. But God has taught me that even though what I said might be right, I was wrong because I was doing it in angry at the time. Think about the HOW and WHEN.

2. Learn the art of “shutting your mouth”.

-It’s hard but this will save you from things you will regret in the future. I have words I wish I could’ve had back. When in doubt, THINK, and take some time before opening your mouth.

3. Dealing with people is a ART, and takes TIME.

-Dealing with people in the right way takes TIME to learn, and time = age. One has to grow in wisdom before knowing the right way to deal with people. Also learning from people who are good with people is very helpful. Study these people and learn!

4. Talk in Private.

-After you have had time to cool down, and get some wisdom. Bring up whats bothering you! Go to the person, don’t be a wimp! But do it in private!

Hope these simple tips will help you have less regret and gain in wisdom…. I’m learning right with you!

 

What Kind Of Noise Are You Making?

We live in a world that is loud. Distractions here, noise there, how can any possibly focus?
It’s easy to make a lot of noise with your talk but what about the noise you make with your actions?

A lot of conversation centers around the idea of cutting through the noise.
The question is asked, how can I stand out on…
Twitter
Facebook
Google+
Email
etc…

But the simple truth is, people pay attention to noise that is not static but moving.

When the words we use (or letters we type) are not backed up with action all we are is just a bunch of white noise.

What kind of noise are you making?

*kyle

Personal Creative Process

I am excited to be apart of a blog series headed up by Darrell Vesterfelt on Personal Creative Process. To read more about this series and to see others that are involved check out this page here.

It is easy to think that you are not creative. You know your art and you know how you got to the end result of your art. “To be described as creative would simply be absurd” you mutter to yourself. As some have said in the past, art is not so much expressing oneself, as it is discovering oneself. And so the personal creative process is filled with a lot of discovery and a lot of doubt, but the key word in it all is discovery.

The journey of discovery that I have been on over the last three or so years has been one that has involved a lot of searching for answers. It seems that art sometimes is like a code of numbers that are waiting to be cracked to unlock the mysteries that are within. I know good art. I see it everyday, I listen to it everyday, and I talk about it everyday. But to discover it, to create it,, that process seems locked away in a safe that Danny Ocean could not crack. So how do you discover the creative process? You start doing something.

I love what Ralph Waldo Emerson says:

The greatest discoveries are those that shed light unto ourselves.

I am convinced that the more I learn about myself the more that I start to discover creativity. It is a process that I am still working on but have started to pay attention to the way I am wired and the way that I operate to produce more creativity. This has become important for me. Mainly because for the longest time I was more interested in what others did then what I was doing. I would spend hours reading, listening, or researching others creative process so that I could then go and be more creative but never spent more then five minutes cultivating my own creative process. The art of discovering creativity is examining oneself to see what will return.

Today I want to share with you three things that I am learning about my creative process:

1. Go With My Gut

The best part about this one is that I really don’t  have a gut, in fact I have lost most of it. But that is not the gut I am talking about, I am referring more to that instinct that you have inside of you. The voice that tells you to move in this direction or to stop all together. If you are anything like me, you have discovered that nine times out of ten that voice is correct. Go with your gut is a great way to start to move forward in your creative process and will start to free you from the burden of making “the right decision.” Honestly, there really is no right decision, only what you decide is right and then  move forward with.

2. Learn More About Yourself

One of the best things I did was to take the Strength Finders Test. This allowed me to really see what I was good at and how I could be even better. I had an idea of where my gifting was, but until I took this test I really did not have a name for it nor did I have a definition to accompany it. Now that I know that I am gifted in connecting, communicating and activating, this has allowed me to focus a bit more on these skills and cultivate more creativity. I have also taken the time to listen to others when they talk about me. This is not a conceited type of thing, but more of a chance to grow and learn. Occasionally I will ask friends, “what draws you to me?” Ya it is a bit weird asking that, but I am glad I do, because the answers are often not what I expect. Learning more about yourself is key in discovering your creative process.

3. Watch Yourself Not Others

It is easy to pay attention to those that we want to be like but often miss who we are all together. One of the biggest things that freed me up in my own personal creative process was to start evaluating what I am doing and not worry about what others are doing. I mentioned it before, but I would spend more time watching others and never paying attention to what I was doing. I would buy resources that others recommended, tried to follow their creative process, and even took notes like they would. It wasn’t until I started to realize that this was just not cutting it and that my ways are okay that I started to free up my creativity and started to move forward with my creative process.

These are just a couple of ways I discovered my creative process. I would love to hear how you have discovered your creative process. I am sure that you are rich with helpful tips.

Share with the community: How have you discovered your creative process?

*kyle

Be sure to check out all the other fine folks that are participating in this extravaganza of creative process blog carnival. Read more here 

Is Building Your Social Platform in Conflict with Building Christ’s Kingdom?

This is a guest post from Stephanie S. Smith. Stephanie is a twentysomething writer, editor, blogger and independent book publicist. She runs her business, (In)dialogue Communications and is a blogger  at www.stephindialogue.com where she blogs about embodied faith, creative life, and millennial culture. Give her a follow on Twitter @stephindialogue. 

In high school I had a journal with a verse quoting John the Baptist emblazoned across the front, “He must increase, but I must decrease.” During my teen years, this was my creed: serving on the sidelines, pointing to Christ.

But this was before the advent of social media. Before I became a book publicist and promotion became my profession. Before I got wired to my laptop and began internally cheering at every blog hit, Facebook “like,” and new Twitter follower. It seems everyone is clambering in some way or another for influence, and I, like many writers and bloggers, began to develop a love/hate relationship with social media. To me it seemed like the two causes are held in tension:
How do we reconcile building our own platform and building Christ’s Kingdom? Are the two mutually exclusive or can they work in harmony?

As much as people might like to champion social media or blame it as the scapegoat for our culture’s vices, I’ve learned that social media is what you choose to make it. Like all things on God’s green earth, we can either use it as an instrument to further God’s Kingdom, or we can fashion it into an idol for our own self-worship. And the deciding factor is often a posture of the heart.
Back to John the Baptist, his life is a primary example of this. In John 1, the religious leaders insist on finding out who exactly this prophet is, and John replies by defining himself as the voice merely introducing another: “John replied in the words of the prophet Isaiah, ‘I am the voice of one calling in the desert, ‘Make straight the way for the Lord.’” (John 1:23). Like many authors, pastors, and bloggers today, John the Baptist was building a “platform” of sorts; Scripture tells us that when he preached, whole cities went to listen (Mark 1:5)! But John’s purpose was not to draw attention to Himself. He was preparing the way for a greater Word, a Word from heaven. John knew that he had a voice of influence, and he used it to usher people into the presence of the Savior.

The same choice is ours today in the digital realm: we can either use our voices of influence for our own self-promotion, or for a sacramental purpose: as an avenue of grace extending beyond ourselves. I know that I have been guilty in the past of using my voice simply because I had been handed a loudspeaker, but my online interactions were not ministering to anyone, they were simply adding to the noise (to borrow from a Switchfoot lyric).

I’ve learned that when it comes to social media and ministry, the medium is NOT the message. If we’re ever blogging just to fill the empty space, or speaking into cyberspace just to tally up our influence, we have forgotten the life-saving message of redemption. But there is a third way. Let’s use our voice to usher others into love, to speak truth and meaning, and to prepare the way for a greater Word.

Stephanie S. Smith is a twentysomething writer, editor, blogger and independent book publicist addicted to print and pixels. After graduating from Moody Bible Institute with a degree in Communications and Women’s Ministry, she now runs her business, (In)dialogue Communications, from her home in Upstate New York where she lives with her husband. She blogs at www.stephindialogue.com about embodied faith, creative life, and millennial culture, and you can follow her on Twitter @stephindialogue.

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The Groupon Model Of Life

Do you want to know what life will look like 10 years from now? Ya me too.

The obsession with what is next can often consume you to the point of madness. Figuring out the next “big thing” could be what drives you to being apart of the next big thing. The race to success is what is on peoples minds and unfortunately what is missing is the focus on what is to come.

I would describe the current race that we are in today as the groupon model way of life. Groupon simply lives on the idea that we (groupon) have influence with customers so you should come to us for help to get your business in front of users. Groupon paints the picture of “win win” for everyone. You get more business and the consumer gets great deals. What a great system for gaining traction right? But what is starting to surface is the lose lose for businesses. The profit is low and the return is almost zero (some whould disagree, like this site here). Simply put, groupon has become a quick and easy way for businesses to take the easy out for instant gratification. The implications from this are huge.
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