I Need You To Mentor Me

Kyle Reed // @kylereed

For a while now mentoring has been on my heart. It is in a lot of what I write about, thinking about, and conversate about.

And ever time I start talking about mentoring I see a huge breakdown between the mentor and mentee.

The breakdown is this:

Mentee: I am afraid to ask.
Mentor: I am afraid to assume.

The mentee is afraid to ask because they could be rejected, they do not understand exactly what they are asking for, and they do not want to be a burden.
The mentor is afraid to assume because they do not know if they can offer good advice, if they have anything to share, and if anyone is interested in listening.

In this constant battle of mentoring and 20 somethings I think the biggest thing that needs to happen is to break down the barrier.

Here is where I need your help.

I need you to record a video of yourself (no matter your age) saying this:

“I Need You To Mentor Me”

That is it. Very simple and easy. Just submit the video link in the comment section or email it to me here, or @ reply a link on twitter here. Whatever you want. But I need everyone to do this.

Note: by submitting this video you are giving me permission to use your message in videos, messages, and presentations. Your submission is your signature of authority that the video can be used and reproduced. Thanks

I need you to share this.

Share it with everyone you know, even your mom. Because this message is so important that everyone needs to be apart of this, everyone needs mentoring. So take to twitter, facebook, google, or wherever all the cool kids hang out and ask them to record a video asking for mentors.

Together we can break down the barriers of mentors and mentorees.

Will you join us?



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Kyle Reed

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I create websites, conversations, and ideas. Advocate for the 20 somethings. Looking to connect everyone to a mentor. Married to my best friend, Ginny. I like my coffee black and my dog Jack. I currently live in Nashville and work at Sony Music/Provident in Nashville
  • http://twitter.com/joannamuses joanna

    I’ll pass on uploading a video! Super un-photogenic!

    Great to see mentoring promoted though. In the ministry I help lead we are currently working through how to develop a culture of mentoring better. It is something we’ve done a bit of in the past, we’ve even run short training courses on mentoring relationships centred round reading the bible together. Some people have kept going with it after the course finished or have gotten involved without doing the course, but there is certainly room to expand the reach and quality of mentoring in the ministry.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      come on now…you gotta join in. It will be no longer then 5 seconds. 

      And yes, there is always room to expand

  • http://chriscornwell.org Chris Cornwell

    vimeo said my video was ‘too short to be valid’ HA! I emailed you my video. 

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      ya that happened to me as well :) hints youtube

      • http://chriscornwell.org Chris Cornwell

        And gmail took forever uploading my 5 second video. You don’t have it yet but
        I want to contribute. Coming later today when I get back to MacBook later.

  • http://www.tonyjalicea.com Tony Alicea

    Dude, you nailed this. Most situations with a mentor and mentee are exactly as you said it. I hope this idea can start the discussion and help open doors of communication on both sides.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      me too Tony

  • Ron Edmondson

    Kyle, this is great. I love what you are doing here. I have had a mentor since I was in my 20’s and sought wisdom, without terming it that since I entered puberty. Almost always, I did the recruiting…mostly for the reasons you mentioned. I just pick someone further down the road and ask them if I can walk with them a while. Right now I have two primary mentors, both in their early 70’s.  

    Good work! Keep being intentional.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Would love to hear how you are doing this. Sending you an email now

  • http://twitter.com/ClayMorganPA Clay Morgan

    So great. Super important. I’m looking forward to following the work you’re doing.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      thanks clay, i am excited as well

  • http://dtrasler.com/ Damian Trasler

    Brilliant. Just a couple of weeks ago, I was asked to mentor a young man writing his first play. I haven’t had a mentor, so I am nervous, but it sounds like the experience will help us both. Retweeting and passing this along.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Thanks Damian. 

      I am so glad you are jumping into that.

      If you would love to chat more about mentoring etc…I would love to do that

  • http://chriscornwell.org Chris Cornwell

    okay. uploaded to youtube. finally.

    looking forward to seeing where you are going with this! So thankful for the mentors in my life and am learning tons about how to mentor others right now!

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      perfect thanks

  • http://twitter.com/ChadwickRay Chad Ray

    you took the words right out of my mouth. I think we both feel very similar about the need for mentoring,. How is it we’ve never engaged in this conversation in person? 

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      so where is your video

  • http://indieleader.com Jason

    on the way!

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed


  • Anonymous
  • Anonymous

    Here ya go. I used CloudApp and it worked great.


    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      love it. thanks man

  • http://manofdepravity.com Tyler Braun

    Finally got a chance to do this.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      thanks homey

  • http://twitter.com/gritandglory Alece Ronzino

    i emailed you my vid…

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      got it

  • http://twitter.com/sleestac Paul Martin

    I think you hit the nail on the head with the “I’m afraid to ask” and “I’m afraid to assume.” I see that so often in discipleship. The confidence factor in who we are and who are created to be is huge. 

    I have been calling people into discipleship for years and this is always one of the biggest obstacles.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      yes I agree. And honestly when someone takes an interest in you it makes a huge difference. But that barrier is still there