It’s Not A Crisis It’s Life As A 20 Something

Kyle Reed // @kylereed

This is a guest post from Jenny Ecklund. Jenny is a 20 something from Dallas that is a regular on this blog and twitter. I have asked her to share her story as a 20 something college student. What you will find in this post is a unique story that is probably similar to your own story. Jenny blogs at and is on twitter @jennyecklund

Im poor. Im lonely. Im questioning how i’ve spent the last few years of my life.

At times I question if I will end up poor, or living at home with my sister. Sometimes I wonder if I’ll just end up failing. My friends are kind of in the same boat. We like to call it our quarter of life crises. Yep, we’ve come up with a term for it.

But really, as I look around my classroom I am not that much different than my peers. We really aren’t going through a crises.

We are just 20-somethings about to graduate college.

Do you ever wonder?

I wonder if i will have to do it alone, as most of my friends are off getting engaged.
I wonder if i will end up ever getting a job other than being a nanny, as many of my friends have started their careers.
I wonder if i will ever be able to buy a house, or have kids as my sister has already started that chapter of her life.

I wonder….

But the thing is, I am learning to stop looking around. To stop panicking about being single, a twenty something, without any idea of what the future will hold. Why? Because God’s plan is awesome. And I know that with all my heart.

So why am I scared to death about never amounting to anything?. Isn’t His plan perfect? Do I really have a place to doubt? Hasn’t he opened my eyes to what he’s called me to do?

So why don’t we trust? Why do we have to be in a crises mode?

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Kyle Reed

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I create websites, conversations, and ideas. Advocate for the 20 somethings. Looking to connect everyone to a mentor. Married to my best friend, Ginny. I like my coffee black and my dog Jack. I currently live in Nashville and work at Sony Music/Provident in Nashville
  • Mo

    Love the this post. As a 20something half way through her grad program, and about to turn 25, I can tell you I’ve been there many times. Doubting, wondering if I have what it takes to make it in the real world, wondering how Im going to balance a successful work career and having a family, etc. BUT the thing is, if i say that I trust God, then I have to walk the talk.
    I have come to realize that it’s only normal for me to question these things every once in a while, as long as the doubt leads me to something, instead of just stressing out “Because God’s plan is awesome. And I know that with all my heart” and that should be more than enough to keep me calm.

    great post!

    • Jenny

      Thank you.

      And Yes, totally. God is awesome. Doubting is normal, and it will all work out. Now will it work out how we want it? Not always, but perfect none the less. Keep the Faith. Even when doubting, there is nothing like the knowledge that you are exactly where God wants you. :)

  • Jason Vana

    I’m not a 20-something anymore, but kind of in the same boat. I don’t necessarily think it’s hard to trust that God will work things out. I think it’s hard to trust that He will work things out in a way that is better than what I want. That still being single is a good thing. That not having a decent job is a good thing. That life going differently than what we wanted is a good thing, especially when things don’t seem to be better.

    But we just have to remind ourselves that, no matter what happens, He is working things out for our good.

    • Jenny

      Totally. When you talk about it being a good thing,because it’s God’s thing I couldn’t agree more.

      My dad actually called me to tell me it’s not just a 20 something, that i will have those same questions my whole life- as a 50 something, or 90 something… glad u understand.

      We’re all in this together.

  • Graham

    I hear ya Jenny. It is tough sometimes. I was in the same boat and thinking the same thoughts until last September when I met the girl that will eventually become my wife. You are right to trust God, he does have a plan for all of us. To quote two memes that have taken off in the past year, “It Gets Better” … “Love Wins”.

    • Jenny

      Congratulations. That’s awesome!

  • Lexi MacKinnon

    I love Jenny and I love her heart!

    Thanks for sharing with such honestly the struggles we all face as 20 somethings at this stage in life!

    • Jenny

      awww thanks Lexi! You are so sweet. :)

  • Stephen Lynch

    I’d go a step further and believe that God has already given or revealed to you talents and passions. Not only is His plan great, but He equips us with abilities and people in our lives to help conquer every “crisis”.

    • Jenny

      I couldn’t agree more with that statement. Thank you.

  • Brent

    Thanks for sharing that, as a 20 something I need a daily reminder that “God’s plan is awesome” he has shown so often that he is faithful opening doors for me but I keep doubting, and wanting things to happen in my time instead of his. thank you for the reminder to let go and just trust him. I’m quitting my mcjob in 4 weeks for a summer job, and have no idea what I am doing in august but I know God has a plan and it is awesome.

    • Jenny

      Sometimes i can’t help but find those moments of uncertainty exhilarating. I was in the same boat last august, but God’s timing was perfect and he supplied me with the perfect job to allow me to do ministry i didn’t even know i was going to do yet. It will all work out.