Just Be You

Kyle Reed // @kylereed

It is always a temptation to be someone else. To copy a look, to have their reactions,to follow their path. It’s all there. But all you really need is to just be you.

See you think you have to become chameleons to fit in. Switching to your surroundings where as not stick out. But sometimes you blend in so well that you never get noticed. You get lost in the shuffle and never get to just be you.

There is something refreshing about being around someone who knows who they are. No trying to prove themselves, no useless conversation, no pointless mind games. They are who they are and that is good enough.

Maybe that’s all you can be and that is good enough.

Because just being you is the only thing you can be…you

*kyle

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I create websites, conversations, and ideas. Advocate for the 20 somethings. Looking to connect everyone to a mentor. Married to my best friend, Ginny. I like my coffee black and my dog Jack. I currently live in Nashville and work at Sony Music/Provident in Nashville
  • http://jonathanpearson.net/ Jonathan Pearson

    Agree 100%. It’s tempting, but it’s also not any fun. People that try to be like someone else all the time never experience the freedom of being themselves. 

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      yes, well said. That is not freeing at all. 

  • http://www.jasonvana.com Jason Vana

    That’s something I have struggled with in the past, and have challenged my college students with all the time. The world doesn’t need another copy of someone else. It needs each and every one of us being the man or woman God designed us to be. 

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Yes, there is only one of you…and there is a reason for that

  • http://www.mustardseedyear.com Jason Wert

    The hard part is when being you means you don’t fit in where you want to be.  When being you means you’re held at arm’s length because you don’t “fit.”  

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      I would challenge you on that JC, because it sounds like you are saying that being you is not good enough for where you want to be. But in a lot of ways I would say that being you will take you to where you need to be not exactly where you want to be.

      So yes, sometimes the things we do to try and get where we think we need to be is not exactly true to who we are. And in all honesty that will come out soon, you cannot fake being someone else. 

      • http://www.mustardseedyear.com Jason Wert

        I’m referring more to situations that you’re in versus being “where you want to be” in the grander sense.  For example, you might really dig a particular company and the way they do things.  You want to be there because they’re movers and shakers and they make “things” happen.  Then once you get in there, you discover that they don’t really want creative types who think outside the box but rather people who will just fit into the molds of what they need done.  You may not be a good fit there if you stay true to who you are even though you want to be there.  So you start to get excluded because you don’t fit the mold.  Where you want to be is using your creativity to do great things like the company you’re working for BUT it doesn’t mean that where you want to physically be (i.e. that company) is where you need to be.

        Does that make more sense?

        • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

          And my attitude for that and have been in that situation before…I just go and do my own thing and use my skills there. If they do not want to use my skills then I will find a different place to use them. It’s there loss really.

          • @B_rewster

            Kyle you nailed it. Do what you do. do it well and do it passionately. When you do you don’t have to wait for permission. Additionally, when you do what you do best your gifts create space for you where you NEED to be. Great post. I am RT’ing now. 

            • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

              thanks buddy…you are my man. 
              Thanks for allowing me to be me and teaching me what that means. 
              Love ya buddy

  • http://www.about.me/donaldborschjr Donald Borsch Jr

    The me that I am is simply the man and son my Father tells me I am.

    If I tried to remake that image or reshape it in any way to glorify myself, my Dad would cause it to crumble and be exposed for the arrogance it is.

    I really like that about Him.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

      Agreed. 

      You learn that lesson pretty quickly

  • http://ineffableGod.com Jonathan Jacob

    Great post man. I think it’s so easy to get caught up in the ‘name game.’ But at the end of the day, it’s about just being real. 

  • Anonymous

    I like what JC had to say. I was thinking the same thing. I never felt like I fit in anywhere. No matter who I tried to be or be like. I never had the cool clothes. Or money to blow. I thought I had to have those things to be part of the “in-crowd”. 
    Even at your age, Kyle, I was still looking for me. I became a Christian while in Pharmacy School. I found it didn’t matter about the clothes or the money! I was accepted for me! Then I stepped away from God. Got married. Had a beautiful daughter (and 2 step-daughters). Got busy with life. 
    Then in my 40’s, addiction took me down. Hard. Found my way out of that hole to find that God had always been there. Waiting for me. Arms open wide. And others like me. LIKE ME. Who accepted me. No matter the scars!! I can be happy for me. Just the way I am. Just WHO I am. Take me as I am. Or move along. 

  • http://twitter.com/AnIdolHeart Grant Jenkins

    word.