On the Fence and it Hurts

Kyle Reed // @kylereed

Let me just say this nowAll you shadow readers of blogs (people who stand in the shadows and watch) its time for you to get your act together and start  commenting.

Okay, lets move on…
Now I know that every time I or someone else post there is not going to be several hundred (how about a couple) comments. It just does not work like that. But I do know that if a third of my visitors commented I would have 50 comments a day. Wow, that is a lot. And yet a good post for me is somewhere around 2-5 comments. If you are a little hazy about this whole commenting thing and why to comment read here, here, and here.

Once again, I want to state that it is not about the numbers or how many comments I can get, it solely comes down to trying to get people to interact with the subject. A great example of this was my series on “war and peace” and the controversial but popular post “Chapel, Actually it was an Assembly.” These two got comments from everyone that visited that day. People were leaving comments because it struck a nerve with them, they wanted to be heard and discuss. If I could reproduce this in every post I would, but to be honest I ran out of ideas a long time ago. But I will see if I can convince the lurkers to comment and bring community.

Literally sitting on a fence hurts, it really does. Figuratively sitting on the fence in the blogging world hurts even more. The literal is pretty obvious, but the figurative is a little hidden, but it is there and it goes deep. I had a friend in college who told me that he doesn’t miss a class or chapel because he is afraid that if he misses just one time he could be missing out on something life changing that God was going to teach him.That could be a little extreme, but I think my friend has a good point, you never know what you are going to learn. I really believe that the same thing can be said about the blogging world. Being able to see why someone else thinks that Kanye West deserves another chance, or why grace is a trouble maker is a great opportunity to be challenged to think.

A friend of mine, who lives in Tampa Florida who will remain nameless, reads my blog, but he never comments. We talk weekly, a couple of hours at a time. Each time that I leave that conversation I am stretched and I grow. My nameless friend does not comment on my blog, to be honest I really do not know why. But I wish he would, he has a lot of good things to say. The whole reason it hurts to sit on the blogging fence or to hide in the shadows is because you are all take and no give.You are soaking up but not pouring out.

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I create websites, conversations, and ideas. Advocate for the 20 somethings. Looking to connect everyone to a mentor. Married to my best friend, Ginny. I like my coffee black and my dog Jack. I currently live in Nashville and work at Sony Music/Provident in Nashville
  • http://intensedebate.com/people/JRallis JRallis

    Love the picture..it's perfect. The illustration of sitting on the fence relates good to blogging. As I post on my blog I feel that same way about the readers.

    Like you've said before, I think it really comes down to community. Adding to the sitting on the fence illustration, I think that by sitting on the fence you're really not in the middle. I think you're on the other side of the fence…the fence that separates community building / relationships and someone sitting in the shadows. My personality is very social, so it's hard for me the understand the type of people who are not like me. Not because they are wrong but because I just don't understand.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/jojoagot jojoagot

    I've also been wondering about this, it's like "come on people, i know you're reading my blog, i see you in my stats." My friends would rather send me email or text messages than comment below my post for reasons that I can never understand.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/klreed189 klreed189

      I really think it is because they just do not realize how it helps bring about conversation with others. But keep paving the way and it eventually will catch on.