I would say that the reason most people do not move forward on many decisions is the fear of rejection.
The power that rejection holds over most peoples lives is one of great strength. It dictates what they say, how they act, and what they believe. All in the name of being accepted.
As I have gotten older I reflect back on high school more and more and realize how much of a jerk I could have been. I say could have been because at the time I really do not know if I was or not. There are specific memories of me playing the role of a jerk and treating people like they were an oddity that could not fit in. This seemed like a pretty normal process for me and my friends, not because we wanted to hurt people, but because we didn’t know it hurt them. Often times the thing we found funny was the thing that was slowly destroying the spirit of the one that did not fit in. But they never said anything. Maybe it was because they didn’t want to be rejected, but probably because they just wanted to be one of us.
Rejection has a powerful hold, it keeps people expressing their true feelings to friends, potential significant others, and family members. The odd thing about rejection is that you cannot experience it unless you speak up. Maybe that is why it is so powerful, because it never has to flex its muscles until someone gets bold enough to challenge it.
Currently I am fighting its power. Afraid of what someone will think when I tell them how I truly feel is holding me back and slowly bringing about a tortuous death. I doubt this is a quote but it should be: “Patience is enough to kill a man” and as much as I believe that, patience is exactly what is holding me away from rejection. I think the rejection I fear right now is that I will have to move on to something else. It’s easier to just sit back and keep believing then starting over.
The power of rejection is only as powerful as we allow it to be.