I have a problem, I have no patience. I need things right this second. I ask a question, I want a response. Type in a URL, I want the site to load in under a half second. Put forth an idea, I want to see the success. I struggle with waiting for anything. And if you are like me you should not feel alone, because we live in a society of instant.
Here is where this starts to become a problem, instant doesn’t always mean best.
There is a lot of discussion about being the first. First to read a blog, first to respond, first to discover a band, first to find a new tech product, first to this first to that. We are all racing to be first. Here is what I have discovered about this race, it is a scheme, a well devised strategy that allows us to hide behind the race. We race to be first because we don’t want to be last.
I cannot tell you how many times I have told someone that I want to write a book, speak at a conference, create an iPhone app, or visit Ireland. Why do I want to do these things? Because others that I view as “successful” are doing these things. They are writing, creating, and producing things that I want to do. So I get on my racing shoes (no, not those creepy five toe glove looking shoes) and start to run to try and get at their pace. I start working on a
“dream” I mean project, even work up a proposal. I start running until I realize that I am not prepared to finish the race. I look around and see how everyone else around me is in better shape, they have better stamina, and better strategy. Simply put, I quit because I am not a good enough runner.
We are all sprinting to catch up but really we are sprinting so we can quit
If we truly believed in what we are doing we would be in no rush or race to finish. We would be okay to let it sit for a couple of months, years or decades (just ask Ben Arment when he got the idea for the Story Conference and how long he waiting to do it). But in a society of instant it is not acceptable to sit on the sidelines or wait. You have to be running at a Usain Bolt speed. Unfortunately, most of us have not been preparing for this sprint or even marathon, instead we have been watching.
Think about the first time you played golf, ice skated, or went water skiing. There probably was a lot of failure involved before success.
If you truly believed in your dream you would be okay with however long it took to come to fruition. You would be okay to sit on the sidelines training, practicing and growing. You would be okay with it being curated and squeezed rather then be completed. Because dreamers need to be more like marathon runners then sprinters.