I am king of this, you know the typical give a compliment, then bring the pain.
Or the one where you say “blah blah blah, BUT blah blah blah”
It seems we all do this. Justify our words to soften the message.
Ask my friends that know me pretty well and they will tell you that I have no problem speaking truth to people, letting them know how I feel and rocking a little bit of a Paula Abdul attitude (Straight up now tell me).
But there are words or phrases that I use to mask the truth. These phrases are something that I try to guard myself from saying:
“I’m Just Saying”
“You Know that I love though”
“Just trying to help you out”
“I am speaking truth in love here”
“Some might see you this way”
“I just wanted to let you know that…”
All of these can often be mask for justifying thoughts.
But I wonder how effective these statements communicate truth and bring help?