What I am learning about life

Kyle Reed // @kylereed

The more you show up the more chances you will have.

Sounds very simple, but I think some of the greatest people (or those that we wish we could be) are those that have showed up.

What is showing up?

Showing up is finding things to show up to. Those events, dinners, friends moving day, serving opportunity, coffee appointment type of things. You cannot show up if you have nothing to show up to.

Showing up is actually showing up. I know you are amazed at my wisdom, but I have found that if the first half of showing up is finding something to show up to, then the last half is following through and showing up. It is amazing what your psyche can do when you give it time to talk you out of doing something. The brilliance of opportunity is that you were there to grab it.

Showing up is being fully present. I am learning that even though I am physically there I still have to be mentally there. Some might interpret this as “being on” like its a game or competition, but its more about being fully present and aware of those around you. Not just looking to get things for yourself, but willing to help others. Not just wanting to only talk about your dream but willing to listen to your neighbors dream. Not just looking for what you can get out of the situation, but what you can give to the situation. Because you can find things to show up to and even show up to them, but if only half of you shows up, you might as well have stayed home to watch Oprah.

I had a friend in college who never missed a class or a chapel (I went to a Bible College). I remember asking him one day, “why do you go to every single class and chapel?” His response: “Because I do not want to miss something. I do not want to miss that very thing God has been trying to tell me all semester, or that one point that I needed to hear to make everything click, or meet that one person that I will work with the rest of my life. If I skip I could be missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime.” Those words still stick with me today, if I never show up how can I ever expect any opportunity.

Today my one thing I am focusing on is showing up. It is making that phone call that I have been putting off. It is following through with a commitment. It is taking a risk and reaching out to someone I do not know but would like to know. It is showing up for an event that I have never been to. It is going after the very thing that scares me to death.

I hope you show up today.

What are you learning about life?


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Kyle Reed

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I create websites, conversations, and ideas. Advocate for the 20 somethings. Looking to connect everyone to a mentor. Married to my best friend, Ginny. I like my coffee black and my dog Jack. I currently live in Nashville and work at Sony Music/Provident in Nashville
  • http://www.mustardseedyear.com Jason

    If everyone your age was able to take and keep that mindset, the world would be a very different place. Great post Kyle.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      I think if everyone my age and for that matter any age had something to show up for the world would indeed be very different place.

  • http://www.abrahamchronicles.com Dustin

    Wise advice. I believe your spot on-showing up is especially important when it comes to relationships. People matter.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      yes absolutely, there is something special about a person that is there and shows up.

  • http://www.brendonfoulke.com Brendon Foulke

    My friend, that is totally true! In order for anyone to get anything accomplished they have to show up. I agree that it is very easy to say but not always easy to do. Just yesterday I was in one of those moods that didnt allow me to show up fully and I hated it. It is a mind set that we have to keep in order for us to grow. I dont even think it is show up in the work place but really everything we do. I think about reading the bible or your daily devo time. If you dont show up ready to feel God, be with God, talk to God, think about his will on your life, then you didnt show up and you wont nearly get as much from your quiet time than you would if you showed up ready.
    You know what I mean?
    Good stuff bro!

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      absolutely, you are spot on.
      I think a big part of it is just being faithful to what you have committed to and what you said you would do. That is definitely applicable to life. Its important to show up to everything.

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  • http://www.jasonvana.com Jason Vana

    I think you nailed it right on the head with what I’m learning about life. It’s easy for me to get distracted, check my phone for emails, twitter updates, texts…definitely not the impression I want to leave with people.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      exactly, I am big on that as well. try to limit those distractions

  • http://jonathanpearson.net Jonathan Pearson

    Love this man. I’m learning to slow down. Kinda goes hand in hand with showing up.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      yes indeed it does. Those seem to be very close to each other

  • http://kennysilva.net Kenny Silva

    That’s awesome, Kyle. Showing up really is half the battle. There is an opportunity cost in everything we do just because it deprives us of the opportunity to show up somewhere else. That’s why its so important to heavily weigh our options against our goals, priorities, and vision. Keep showing up, meeting people, and adding value to their lives. Even if you don’t earn a dime in the process, you’ll be more successful than you could ever hope to be.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      agreed, its about the people not what you can get from people.

  • http://www.allisonroberts.wordpress.com Allison

    I read this post shaking my head in agreement with everthing you said. These are the exact same things that I have been trying to focus on over the past couple of weeks. I found out that I have some very bad habits that need to change. Those habits are not going down easily. It’s a struggle on so many different levels for me to be “fully present”. Great post!

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      I am the same way. I struggle with showing up. Its mainly because it doesn’t feel comfortable…yet

  • http://www.messiahmom.wordpress.com kristinherdy

    I’m so glad I showed up on your blog today. You never know what you might miss, if you don’t go.

    I hate missing out, so, I plan to show up.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      exactly, you never know.

  • http://theperkinsblog.net Michael

    I’ve been learning to take more chances…in everything.

    For too long, I’ve dreamed big, but I’ve sat on the sidelines hoping they would happen. I’ve messed up and failed a lot recently. But that’s okay, I’m learning and growing from it.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      I am glad you are realizing that. I really want to grab my dream as well, and not sit on the sidelines and let it pass

  • http://www.bensayin.com Ben

    This is kind of our (me and my wife’s) M.O. for the year, with hopes to further ourselves in all aspects: Our walk, family, friendships, workplace, etc…

    When my kids say, “Hey dad look!” I’m gonna look.

  • http://www.thedailywalk.net Adam

    @the_daily_walk is now @adamtucker

    Thanks for sharing this!

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed


  • http://shelbyisrad.wordpress.com Shelby

    I have been really convicted on the idea of ‘showing up’ lately. I really want to become more present in my every day activities

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      thats a great commitment, me too

  • http://www.cartoonrebellion.net Jenny

    I read this for the first time this morning in class. I went to class, but I wasn’t fully present. I was blog hopping and twitter feed reading instead. ;)

    Anyways, obviously this is something i struggle with. After reading this, I took an opportunity this evening to get to know some ppl that live at the apt I minister at. I normally get scared while im out there by myself, knocking on doors and a stranger invites me in their house… normally i decline politley, but tonight I went in anyways. I seized the opportunity. And let me tell you, I got an incredible story and a couple of prayer warriors in return. Showing up. Being Present… It matters for sure. Its being intentional in relationships. Its how we are refined as people, and how the kingdom grows.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      thats awesome. I mean be safe, but that is awesome

  • http://www.contentunderpressure.net Josh

    Good stuff, Kyle.

    I’m learning that I have to put myself out there to have things to show up to. This is true in many aspects of my life: my music and having real community is one of them. The community part is insecure, the music part is ignorance, me thinks.

    • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com Kyle Reed

      I think that is why it is so hard to do, we are putting ourselves out there.